Safe and Secure
A 8-Week Somatic Re-Parenting Course for Survivors of Complex and Developmental Trauma
What is Safe and Secure about?
Restoring a sense of worthiness and trust in yourself
Learning to feel safe around difficult emotions or memories
Finding understanding and clarity around your triggers
Building confidence and capacity for navigating life’s expected challenges with less stress
Rewiring your nervous system for more ease, peacefulness and pleasure
Building a healthy, sustainable relationships with yourself and others
Feeling safe, secure, soothed and settled inside every day
“No recovery from trauma is possible without attending to issues of safety, care for the self, reparative connections to other human beings, and a renewed faith in the universe.”
- Janina Fisher, PhD
Safe and Secure is a course that will guide you through understanding the concepts of attachment theory, how trauma impacts your relationships to yourself, others and the world at large and how this impacts your life now as an adult, while providing actionable strategies for healing and building secure relationships with both yourself and others after trauma.
It covers concepts of safety and healing such as emotional regulation, trust-building, mindfulness for managing post-traumatic stress, increasing self-awareness, building capacity and more practical tools to both form or restore a sense of security and safety after trauma.
Why does attachment matter?
In the face of early life adversity or trauma, our relationships either provide the safety and security we need to move through our lived experiences OR they add an additional layer or stress, insecurity and lack of safety which compound our stress.
When this happens, it leaves our nervous system in chronic states of stress that can lead to all kinds of symptoms and syndromes down the road, including but not limited to:
Overwhelming shame or negative beliefs about ourselves
Somatic symptoms like fatigue, digestive issues, autoimmunity or other stress-mediated illness
Muscular tension and myofascial pain
Anxiety or depression, often both
Relational struggles and repeated, frustrating patterns inside of them
Feelings of restlessness, emptiness or lack of purpose
Struggles to identify and express boundaries
Struggles to identify or express needs
Fears of trusting ourselves or others
Feeling overwhelmed by life, our problems and our felt experiences
Both desire and fear around connection
Feeling stuck or shut down at times
Disordered eating responses or other forms of compulsive or addictive behaviors
We need connection to ourselves and with others in order to feel safe and settled in our lives.
Without it, our bodies, minds and hearts will struggle to feel well and whole.
Restoring connection IS the pathway to recovery and healing after trauma.
The Safe and Secure Method is a model constructed out of almost a decade of clinical experience and the hard, incredible research and work of so many practitioners in the field of trauma work.
It combines several working theories, including Attachment Theory, Family Systems Theory, Structural Dissociation Theory and The Neuroaffective Relational Model into one system for creating secure attachment to one’s self and, eventually, one’s people through time-tested interpersonal skills that help us to feel safe inside ourselves and with others.
In the course, you can expect to learn things like:
How to build security through re-parenting and how to use the technique skillfully to heal and tend to your traumatized parts.
How to witness and hold emotionally triggering moments without becoming flooded, overwhelmed or shutting down.
Which “missing experiences” impacted your sense of safety and self during childhood and how to fill in those gaps now as an adult.
The Conditions for Safe Connection and how they lead us to deeper intimacy and trust with ourselves and others.
How your individual trauma has impacted your beliefs about yourself and how to gently and lovingly move beyond them without blame or shame.
The role your nervous system plays in: how you feel, what you think, the beliefs you hold and the ways you behave.
How to use embodied healing exercises to create states of safety and security inside and stretch outside your comfort-zone more confidently.
How to regulate your emotions without numbing out, shutting down, exploding, lashing out or turning to addictions, food or other impulsive behavior to soothe yourself.
What emotional availability actually is and how to skillfully navigate unavailability in others by first becoming available to yourself.
Why love is more than a feeling and the skills you need to love yourself and others well.
But how do I know it will be a good fit for me?
You struggle with critical, judgmental or shameful thoughts toward yourself.
You often feel overwhelmed and frustrated with yourself or others.
You consistently feel misunderstood or unseen in relationships with others, especially romantic partners.
You act out your feelings with behaviors like over or under-eating, overspending, sexual impulsivity, constant scrolling or substances like drugs and alcohol.
You struggle to spend time alone OR you isolate when under stress.
You find yourself being overly busy and have a hard time slowing down.
You struggle with any kind of anxiety or depressive disorder.
You carry shame-based beliefs like: I’m unlovable, I’m not good enough, I’m undeserving, I’m bad, I’m unworthy etc.
You struggle with boundaries and either over or under-protect your time, energy, needs and heart.
You struggle with knowing how to move through triggers gracefully and either suppress or react to big feelings.
You often feel like “something bad might happen” at any minute and struggle to fully relax.
You start to withdraw when you feel yourself getting close to others or when you feel triggered inside your relationships, leading to loneliness, isolation and defeat.
While this list is certainly not exhaustive, these are many of the same experiences my clients come to me with every day that can benefit from the approach in Safe and Secure.
Here’s what past participants have to say:
“Syanna is the most down to earth, sincere, compassionate and relatable teacher that I’ve come across in my many years of personal development.
I will jump at the chance to participate in other programs that she offers in the future.
Thank you Syanna!”
“Thanks to Syanna and her gift for facilitating the healing process, I no longer believe that I am permanently damaged or incapable of changing the narratives that have caused me to feel undeserving throughout my life. The changes are profound and deep and beautiful, and I am eternally grateful.”
“I have had the honor of working with Syanna twice and each and every time I work with her it is an absolute pleasure. Syanna is an incredibly gifted healer and teacher. She genuinely cares about each and everyone of her clients so much so you can actually feel it through her energy. I 100% recommend working with her. It is something you will not regret.”
“Your class has been so helpful to me, especially in how I have been relating to my youngest daughter.
Thank you, so much.”
“Working with Syanna has been life-changing for me. Through her kindness, and the ability to articulate some of this very confusing, yet tender, work of trying to heal, I have found my way back to vitality. I am forever grateful of her wonderful content and programs as well as the coaching I have done with her for almost two years.”
To join us, click the button below.
For more information on the course and what you can expect during our time together, read on!
How it works
Class will be held every week via Zoom for 60 minutes, with 30 minutes of optional Q and A time following class time.
During class, we will be engaging in a combination of learning material, embodied exercises, inner dialogues, sharing time and space for questions or explorations as we move through the content.
You will also receive a course workbook to download and print out upon registering. The workbook will contain information on each week, learning tools to help you understand the material more fully, embodied healing exercises for each week and dialogues to use for deeper connection with yourself and others.
Each class will be recorded and sent out via email that week.
Live attendance is appreciated but not required.
Course Outline
Week 1: Introduction to Attachment Theory for Trauma Healing
How and why safety heals. Your story makes sense and so do your needs.
Week 2: Understanding Complex and Developmental Trauma
Identifying, naming and working with parts. Unblending and getting off of the “trauma train.”
Week 3: Beginning the Healing Journey
Practical tools for regulating and processing triggers and emotions. Grounding, containing, and completing.
Week 4: Exploring Emotional Availability
How to turn inward and relate. Learning to offer safe connection to yourself each and every day.
Week 5: Soothing Shame
Somatically and relationally processing barriers to worthiness. Uncoupling who you are from what you’ve been through.
Week 6: Embodying Boundaries
Learning to respect ourselves and others no matter what. Finding our voice while remaining compassionate.
Week 7: Overcoming Fear
Tolerating and supporting vulnerability and risk after trauma. How to discharge panic and fear.
Week 8: Moving Forward
Practicing self-compassion for long-term growth and success. Being with disappointment, mistakes and mess-ups.
Have more questions?
Check out the FAQs below or get in touch HERE.
FAQs
Q. Can I go at my own pace?
A. Yes, absolutely. While the course is designed for weekly content and homework, you can go and slow or as quickly as you would like to through it.
Q. Will the course be available again?
A. This course is available anytime you’re ready to sign up. Simply click the purchase button and you’re on your way to more safety and security inside for a lifetime.
Q. What is embodied healing?
A. Embodied healing is based on two concepts: The fact we have a body and that our body responds to our environment based on whether we feel safe or unsafe.
When we feel safe, our body responds with feelings of relaxation, joy, connection, curiosity, compassion, confidence, gratitude, love and generosity.
When we feel unsafe, our body responds with feelings of threat, anger, anxiety, disconnection, hypervigilance, depression, fear and scarcity.
Through embodied healing practices, we can become aware of and in tune with the different sensations, feelings and impulses in our bodies that signal to us when we are feeling unsafe and use our internal resources to create safety and security allowing our bodies to relax and rest into safety and all of its accompanying pleasant feelings.
Q. Do I need anything specific to participate?
A. You will need access to a computer and an email account.
Q. Is this work safe and suitable for me?
A. While I cannot guarantee that you will have a positive reaction to this work, with the emphasis being on creating internal resources for security, most people find that they are able to access more feelings of safety, security and comfort rather than less.
If at any time you feel overwhelmed by the work you are doing, you can either reach out for support or find a trained therapist or professional to support your healing journey.
Q. How do I know it will work for me?
A. While the most honest answer is “we don’t know for sure how this work will impact you”, I have seen time and time again with my clients and workshop attendees is that they feel a sense of peace and understanding when they begin this work that years and maybe even of decades of traditional talk therapy haven’t been able to provide.
Have another question? Get in touch at sy@syannawand.com and I’ll get back to you as soon as possible!